Everybody has a different boiling point just like different things do. Some people have such short tempers that they really ought to be in a small padded room with nothing but children's shows playing day and night. Whilst others have such a lathargic rise to anger that it is just pathetic and these people get pushed around and stepped on.
Of course you can stick up for yourself without anger. I would recommend it if it is possible. Though sometimes being stern isn't enough for the passive-agressive get-all-you-can-get people of the world. It is very hard to decide what is worth your frustration and what is not. All I have learned is that nothing is worth your anxiety, or really frustration, or any sort of negative contemplation of what is to come. God takes care of all that.
I know someone who is that person that if the seatbelt doesn't come all the way down the first time in the car, than they have a tantrum of intense rage. I find this comical being someone who is really on the other end of the spectrum. I am that guy that doesn't stand up enough if the issue is close to my heart. I tend to let things slide and be a little to understanding and I have unfortunately found out recently that I am not a very talented judge of character either. That person I spoke of and I are polar opposites but both don't have the right amount of patience.
If you have an abundance of patience but no direction, you will waste all of that precious material on someone who doesn't even care that you gave it to them. Instead, be happy if you have oh so much patience and direct it towards God and his plans for your life. This is a much better investment of a limited resource; patience. Because there are some people or things or places that can receive total patience until the end of time and never change, or accommodate your feelings or even care that you stuck around at all for them.
Always bare in mind though that someday you are bound to meet someone worth all of your patience and time and compassion. The real trouble lies in those with short-tempered dispositions
People like that person that I mentioned previously will struggle and people will struggle with them. It takes someone with twice as much patience to be around someone who doesn't have any. I suppose that opposites attract for a reason maybe. There's certainly psychological disunity in a person that has extreme hardships with being patient. People that walk out the door one day after a small argument, or forms a grudge over you after your first minor offense against them or someone who just doesn't stick around to hear what you have to say. Those people probably have a centralized anger about a fact about their world that they truly wish was different. Hope is not gone for the borderline comics that lash out at every minute obstacle. If someone works out why they feel so angry than they may inadvertantly inherit patience and character. We all wish some things were different about the world but taking a breath and counting to ten is the best natural reflex one can have.
-Hopefully bringing some ideas out of the fog,
This is Kel's Insight, and I hope I have kept things in focus, and in sight
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